{{dating}}Dating
can be tough, whether it be online or in "real life". And first dates
can be especially painful for those who aren't prepared! So what can you do to
insure a great first date? How can you save yourself when things go wrong? Here
is a list of dating tips to start things out right:
Keep it Simple: You're nervous enough without
setting up a big, elaborate event. Plus, you don't want to lock yourself in to
an evening that you won't enjoy with someone you're not totally comfortable with
yet. A simple but elegant date is more likely to secure a second date.
Travel Separately: The issue of security is vitally important in today's
world. That being said, you should always arrange to meet on the first date. If
the date isn't working out, you have the option of cutting it short and your date
will not know where you live. It also protects you from your own impulses to invite
your date in and have regrets afterward.
Women... Dress Moderately :
Unless your intent is to hook up for the night, be careful when choosing what
to wear. Men often see signals in the way women dress that are not their intention.
Sexy low-cut dresses, short-shorts and tank tops are taken at face value as an
invitation for a more intimate encounter. And on top of that, who needs to worry
about keeping a dress in place or having a belt cutting off circulation when we're
just trying to get to know someone.
Men... Appearance is Paramount:
A well groomed appearance and good hygiene say a lot to a woman so don't forget
a clean shave and mouthwash. Go easy on the cologne; you don't want to look like
you're trying too hard.
Conversation is the Key: The only way you
will ever get to know someone is through conversation. Stay away from religion,
politics and old flames; choose personal interest topics like hobbies, sports,
kids, etc. Be attentive, make eye contact and be an interactive listener by encouraging
the direction of the conversation.
Make Sure you let THEM Talk:
It's a fact... people love to talk about themselves. Dale Carnegie said it best,
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people
than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
Paying
for the Date: Who pays? This should be determined before you make your final
arrangements to meet. It is often more comfortable for each person to pay their
own way. If you're not paying, stay in the middle range of the menu unless your
date orders for you both.
More Common Sense Tips: Plan ahead with
a mutually agreed upon activity and location. Turn off your cell phone; it doesn't
get much ruder than to answer a cell phone call when you're on a date. And never
promise to call someone if you have no intentions of doing so.
Ending
the Date: Men should take it upon themselves to call it a night. By doing
so, it eliminates the stress that the woman may feel about having to 'put-out'.
The conclusion of your first date should be without any strings attached and without
obligations. Depending on the chemistry between the two people, a kiss goodnight
is quite appropriate. Just be aware of the body language of your date and don't
move too fast. If the date didn't go well, end it early with a prepared excuse
such as 'I have to get up early in the morning.' Chances are your date is feeling
the same and will be relieved by your action.
Relax and allow yourself
to have fun and enjoy being with your date. No matter how your first date ends,
dating is a process that may take some time before you will find the right person.
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